Jul 31, 2008

Mid-Valley Quilt Guild: Salem, Oregon


I had the pleasure of attending Salem's Mid-Valley Quilt Guild's July meeting and hearing some delightful speakers, as well as viewing some wonderful quilts, bags, potholders, casserole dishes, salads, and desserts.

Having sewn since I was 12, and quilted since the '80s, I realized I'm still in a bit of time warp. Still making the simple little quilts that I've loved for decades and giving almost everything I make away! So, time for a change and some new inspiration, friendships, and ideas! With over 300 women quilters and one brave and extremely talented man, the MVQG offers it all.

So, I changed my non-joining ways and I finally joined the Guild ;)

The Mid-Valley Quilt Guild serves quilters from all around the Willamette Valley, with the city of Salem as our hub. Like most guilds, the group meets monthly...11 months out of the year and holds a wonderful quilt show every other year balanced with an educational series of classes called 'Quilt College' as the bi-annual alternate event. Meeting at Morningside Methodist Church on the last Tuesday of the month, this month (July) was our potluck dinner and awards meeting.

As my first 'official' meeting (I've come as a guest before) it was a great meeting to attend. Plenty of wonderful dishes to choose from, an enthusiastic speaker (Rachel Greco, from Grandma's Attic Sewing Emporium in Dallas, OR) and lots of great women and charming projects to share. Rachel spoke about "Silly Things That Quilters Do That Mess Up Their Lives." From things like buying cheap fabrics to being ruled by the Quilt Police to coveting thy neighbor's stash, I'd pretty much done them all. I figured that more than qualified me as a 'real woman who quilts' and definitely helped me to feel welcomed and one of the group.

Now, I've only got one month to wait until the next meeting....and a year until the casseroles, salads and desserts!

Shown above:
Leslie Zeigen, (creator of the amazing "you have to see it to believe it Bibliophile library quilt" ( A Shared Passion for Textile Arts: Leslie Coleman Zeigen) shows her Karla Alexander patterned quilt from Karla's New Cuts for New Quilts (More Ways to Stack the Deck)
Karla, by the way, lives here in Salem and is a member of the guild :)

Jul 30, 2008

The Gift of an Enduring Legacy


The greatest gift we can give another, is the gift from the heart, when given with love. And no better gift can exist than those we cherish because of their meaning and their intent, for the rest of our lives.

As I watched The Last Lecture: A Celebration of Life on ABC last night, from my home in Salem, my heart was filled to overflowing with the depths of the lasting gift that the simple life of one person can make in the lives of a million more.

It strengthened my own resolve to make a difference in this world, by both thought and deeds in even the simplest of ways. It may began with how we live our own lives, how we inspire others, or the good we seek to do.

As a community volunteer for over 30 years, there are many, many times, that I may have wished I could have used my talents to create a better life, through earnings, for myself or my family. But I have always grounded myself by the understanding that it is the simplest acts of giving in my life that mean the most to me. And being a volunteer, whether it is in community projects, helping out in a school classroom, sewing costumes for educational theatre programs or sewing or quilting for others; that simply makes me the happiest....and enriches my own life the most....in that process.

There is a saying that 'it is in dying that we are born again' one which means much more than what the process of facing the challenges of life and dying in order to reap greater rewards of eternal life might appear. For there are the many gifts that the living of that life, and the transitional energies of that passing, than can mean even more...especially to those who lives we touch along the way. The things we can share, the ways we can give, and most of all the inspirations towards goodness that we can pass along.

If the life and Randy Pausch can touch our hearts so deeply, that why can't we also seek in our own ways, to touch that inner heart of the universal spirit and make contact with the goodness each of us has to offer?

As my 'almost perfect' graduation gift this year, I gave a copy of Randy Pausch's " The Last Lecture" in a homemade morsbag.......both gifts that continue to keep on giving. Carnegie Mellon Professor, Randy Pausch, was a gift to all of us, an enduring gift with a never-ending legacy.

All we need to do.... is to simply pass that gift on.

Sewing Note of Interest:
Randy Pausch loved to sew!
He sewed during the period he was working on his Phd. thesis in 1987-88 but created gifts for friends and family, later on, as well. His specialty involved his life long love of stuffed animals. He created a multitude of quite creative stuffed animals, a stuffed hot air balloon/animal, a stuffed paisley car and even a Starkist Tuna can. View these wonderful creations and just imagine the possibilities of the joy they will continue to bring to others!
http://download.srv.cs.cmu.edu/~pausch/Randy/Randy/sewing.htm

Latest Update on Randy Pausch Memorial at Carnegie Mellon University:
August 17, 2008 Carnegie Mellon University plans Randy Pausch Memorial Walk
Video: Dr. Randy Pausch Video Obituary

Jul 28, 2008

The Last Lecture: A Celebration of Life (ABC Tuesday Night)



July 29, 2008: The Last Lecture: A Celebration of Life (ABC Tuesday Night) ABC Primetime will be featuring a special presentation of the life of Carnegie Mellon Professor Randy Pausch on Tuesday, July 29 at 10 p.m./9 Central. ABC news correspondent, Diane Sawyer was among the first to be told of Randy's death at age 47, from the pancreatic cancer he has so courageously battle for almost two years. Randy died on July 25, 2008. Randy's "Last Lecture" and its subsequent interview was one of the most powerful accounts of hope, grace and optimism that the news program had ever featured and drew responses around the globe.

It began with the age-old question of 'What would you say if you knew you were going to die and had a chance to sum up everything that was most important to you?" With words, and in deeds, Randy Pausch became a beacon of shining light for all of us. From his famous lecture in a classroom at Carnegie Mellon University, to the Oprah Show, to his first ABC primetime special, to his book and to his June 2008 appearance at Carnegie Mellon's graduation ceremony, where he presented Al Gore with a copy of his book, lifted his wife Jai into his arms and gave her a big kiss. YouTube - Randy Pausch Inspires Graduates

As Randy has always said...."If I don't seem as morose or depressed as I should be -- sorry to disappoint you," he said, and then he wows the crowds by dropping to the floor and doing several push-ups .

When Randy Pausch speaks about his childhood dreams, he has said: "You may not agree with the list but I was there. ... Being in zero gravity, playing in the National Football League, authoring an article in the World Book Encyclopedia -- I guess you can tell the nerds early. ... I wanted to be one of the guys who won the big stuffed animals in the amusement park." And win them, he did.

Pancreatic cancer is the fourth leading cause of cancer death in the United States,. And unfortunately, very little has worked to prolong the lives of pancreatic cancer patients.
According to the Pancreatic Cancer Action Network, an advocacy organization for the pancreatic cancer community, approximately 37,170 Americans will be diagnosed with pancreatic cancer in 2008 and 33,370 will die from it. The Pausch family has asked that donations on Randy's behalf be sent to the organization or to Carnegie Mellon's Randy Pausch Memorial Fund.

"I'd like to thank the millions of people who have offered their love, prayers and support," his wife, Jai Pausch, said in a statement. "Randy was so happy and proud that the lecture and book inspired parents to revisit their priorities, particularly their relationships with their children. The outpouring of cards and emails really sustained him."

And, as Randy has said: "My wife Jai has been an incredible source of stability and courage through all this. We both agree that "you can't control the cards you're dealt, just how you play the hand." And he later added, that "I knew my wife was the 'one', when I knew I loved her more then myself."

Most of the cards have been dealt now, and Randy dedicated most of them...as he did his book and his life, to his family. He leaves behind his beatiful wife Jai, and three children. Dylan 7, Logan 4, and Chloe 2.

While he has also said that he would not spend his final days making funeral arrnangements, memorial servives, both private and public, are inevitable for this greatly beloved man and both are being scheduled. Good Morning America is featuring Randy's life on both Monday and Tuesday mornings and airing their special The Last Lecture: A Celebration of Life (ABC Tuesday Night) at 10 pm/9 Central.

And Randy's life, as in his death, was a life of wonder and joy and insatiable curiousity. Even on his death bed, as his best friend Steve Seabolt, was with him as he died at about 4 a.m. in Chesapeake, Va. home, when Steve told him it was "ok, to let go" and "that it would be all right" Randy is reported as saying with his final words...."I'll get back to you on that." Even at the end, a final small smile, a quip and that wonderful energy to pass on his own knowledge.

Funeral Arrangements:
Dr. Randy Pausch's family plans a private funeral in Virginia, and Carnegie Mellon University officials said that they would schedule a memorial service at a date yet to be announced.

WATCH: 'The Last Lecture': Part 1
Professor Randy Pausch on what led to the creation of his inspiring talk.
WATCH: 'The Last Lecture': Part 2
Randy and Jai Pausch discuss the tears and laughter that fill their marriage.
WATCH: 'The Last Lecture': Part 3
The Pausch family celebrates each day it has together.
WATCH: 'The Last Lecture': Part 4
Randy Pausch's longtime pro-football dreams come true for an afternoon.
WATCH: 'The Last Lecture': Part 5
A professor's inspirational words have grown into a legacy inspiring millions.

New Links:
Video: Dr. Randy Pausch Video Obituary
click here to see ABC News' full coverage of his story.
PHOTOS: Randy Pausch and His Family
Alice: Randy Pausch's Computer Software for Kids

Previous links and posts:
Randy Pausch's Home Page
The story of Randy's diagnosis of pancreatic cancer
RandyPauschInformation
Update on Randy Pausch: in his own words
Randy's famous "Last Lecture."
The Last Lecture:Randy's Book, just released!
Randy Pausch's Last Lecture - UPDATE ETC Global News
Journeys Lecture: Really Achieving Your Childhood Dreams
YouTube - The last lecture of Randy Pausch 1
ABC News: Dying Professor's Lecture of a Lifetime
RandyPauschInformationThe Last Lecture:Randy's Book, just released!
The Last Lecture: Transcript LinkJune 2008:
Randy Pausch: Update
Randy Pausch Has Died

Read or Print off a copy of his transcript of The Last Lecture:
Transcript of Randy Pausch's "The Last Lecture" as delivered at Carnegie Mellon University on Sept. 18, 2007 pdf

Latest Post: July 31, 2008 The Gift of an Enduring Legacy
Latest Update: August 17, 2008 Randy Pausch Funeral, Memorial Service Walk and Footbridge

Jul 27, 2008

Sometimes A Great Notion



If you're a quiltmaker, then the words 'sometimes a great notion' might mean a new design idea, the latest in rotary cutters, or finally finding a Sidewinder for half price. If you're from Oregon, have ever lived in Oregon, grew up during the 60's and 70's or just like to read books from that era, then "Sometimes a Great Notion' means you've read Ken Kesey's best selling book by that name.

However, if you ever lived in Oregon, like to read and are a quiltmaker ...like Finn, from Wisconsin..then "Sometimes a Great Notion" is the name of a quilt you mailed to Michele, who lives in Salem ....likes new design ideas, rotary cutters, wishes for a Sidewinder for half price, spent those decades straddling life in Alaska AND Oregon... and yes, did indeed read Ken Kesey's best selling book.

This great notion was beyond great. Dear Finn, while Paying It Forward, not only created and quilted me a beautiful little comfort quilt (which could also be used as a fabulous wall hanging) but it is SUCH a sweet quilt which also PERFECTLY matches my rustic Christmas colors. AND she sent me other unbelievable finds...a linen table cloth from my home state of Alaska and a vintage 1992 copy of Ladies Circle magazine where the entire issue was devoted to quilts and quilters in......you guessed it.... Alaska! To top it off, she included some lovely plaid fabrics, and instead of 'never giving an inch' sent me wonderfully sized pieces. Fabrics that are perfect for my current craze of making morsbags and giving them away as re-useable shopping bags.

From the Oregon coast, over to Wisconsin, through my heart in Alaska and back down to Salem...the arrows show me the way through the falling timbers and all of the rivers that run so deep. Thanks, Finn! It was indeed a very great notion and I just loved every piece of it!

Jul 25, 2008

Randy Pausch Has Died + Update on Jai Pausch and Family





2008--2016 Updates through time.
Missing a remarkable man...

Latest Update on Randy Pausch Funeral/Memorial Service:
Randy Pausch Funeral/Memorial Service Video:
Dr. Randy Pausch Video Obituary

August 17, 2008
Carnegie Mellon University plans Randy Pausch Memorial Walk
Funeral Service to be held at CMU in the Fall
Footbridge Planned...see bottom of this post for details and quotes

July 25, 2008The latest update on CMU Professor, Randy Pausch ( husband to Jai, father to Dylan 7, Logan 4, and Chloe,2) is that Randy Pausch has died.

The Last Lecture: A Celebration of Life (ABC Tuesday Night)

My heart was hurting all night long. I should have sensed that I was feeling the pain of a nation as we lost Randy Pausch to pancreatic cancer. ABC's "Good Morning America” reported Friday morning that Carnegie Mellon professor Randy Pausch, 47, had died. GMA’s Diane Sawyer received a phone call from the family early Friday morning, letting her know the sad news.

Last August, doctors told Carnegie Mellon University professor Dr. Randy Pausch that he was suffering from pancreatic cancer and only had months to live. Almost a year later, with his story reaching out and touching people around the world, and launching interest in this amazing man and his story, Randy Pausch died Friday at age 47.

With months to live, Pausch gave his famous “Last Lecture” at CMU in September 2007. As Randy, explained there's an academic tradition called the 'Last Lecture.' at Carnegie Mellon. Professors give it before they retire. Randy knew, after his diagnosis, that he wanted to give his own final lecture on "Really Achieving Your Childhood Dreams" . He would talk about his life's journey and the lessons he's learned along the way, talk to his students, but always with the intent of leaving the video-taped lecture, as his own final legacy, for his three small children.

That September 18, 2007 lecture before 400 people at Carnegie Mellon University was complete with slides of his CT scans and a description of the cancer that was devouring his pancreas and that would most likely claim in his life in a matter of months. Randy Pausch's 'Last Lecture" was video-taped and ended up on the Internet where it has since been downloaded more than 6 million times. Randy Pausch ended up being on You Tube, and on the Oprah Show ,where he reprised his "Last Lecture". Randy was also featured on an ABC special called "The Last Lecture: A Love Story for Your Life" where the family formed a strong link with ABC news reporter, Diane Sawyers.

This amazing man and his overwhelmingly inspirational speech has reached, touched and exploded 10 million hearts. It's not just a speech about achieving childhood dreams, or living your life, or what you would do if you were told that you only had six months left to live.

"Any professor will tell you there's some lectures you have to pull them out of yourself, and there's some that just pour. This talk wrote itself."

Randy's talk may have written itself, but it was a final accomplishment to put that talk into book form. The entire, original transcript of Professor Randy Pausch, of Carnegie Mellon University and his unforgettable speech "The Last Lecture" delivered on Sept. 18, 2007 here: PDF download of "The Last Lecture"

Randy had reported, as of May 28th, that the latest round of chemo created debilitating side effects and was discontinued. Previously, Randy has been involved in a number of experimental drug trials and each time, the side effects and the drugs, themselves, have created such extreme problems that they have had to all be discontinued.

Doctors continued to try to improve his general health so as to try continuing attacks against the tumors, which had spread. Randy reported on June 10th, that he had received a letter from President and Mrs. Bush at the White House, where they expressed their support and prayers for his continuing strength and comfort.

Randy and his wife, Jai attended the graduation ceremonies for the May, 2008 graduating class at Carnegie Mellon. Randy presented a copy of his book "The Last Lecture" to Al Gore during the commencement ceremonies and was honored with his 'giving of the charge ' at the end of the ceremonies to the young students there that day. He told the audience at Carnegie Mellon that his doctors had given him about five more months to live, but that he wasn't going to talk about his cancer or his family. Instead, he would concentrate on the valuable lessons he had learned during his life and the joy he had experienced.

"If I don't seem as morose or depressed as I should be -- sorry to disappoint you," he said, and then wowed the crowd by dropping to the floor and doing several pushups to show how strong he felt.View here: YouTube - Randy Pausch Inspires Graduates

Randy Pausch was included in TIME Magazine's 2008 list of the world's 100 most influential people. His book, "The Last Lecture," co-written by Jeff Zaslow of the Wall Street Journal and based on Pausch's now-famous talk "Really Achieving Your Childhood Dreams," is a New York Times #1 bestseller.

When asked about his hopes for the book, a book which continues to be on the bestseller list today, Randy said "I only care about the first three copies." (meaning as a legacy for his 3 children, ages 2,4, and 7.

Randy Pausch knew he was going to die, but that didn't stop him from truly living, his greatest belief was 'in having fun' in truly 'living your life to the fullest.' Randy was given 6 months and managed to stretch out that time span into almost 2 years. He died, as he lived, doing all he could do to live his life to the fullest, to leaving a legacy of memories behind for his loved ones and for inspiring others...not just in a classroom at Carnegie Mellon, but in places all over the world.

As Randy said in an interview: "I'm pleased to do what good I can on the way 'out of the building'. It's hard to raise awareness of pancreatic cancer-people who get it don't live long enough."

Steve Seabolt, a vice president at video game maker Electronic Arts and one of Dr. Pausch's best friends, was with him when he died at about 4 a.m. in Chesapeake, Va., where he moved after his final lecture to spend his remaining time with his wife, children and family. He has said that Randy remained lucid until near the end, and while his energy was depleted, he even had made a couple of trips up and down the stairs of home the day before he died.

To me, that truly symbolizes the kind of man he was, the way he continued to try his very best to live as long as possible for his wife and chidlren and to continue to increase awareness of this incredibly challenging form of cancer.

And, as Randy has said: "My wife Jai has been an incredible source of stability and courage through all this. We both agree that "you can't control the cards you're dealt, just how you play the hand."

During a visit in 1998 to the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill to give a lecture on virtual reality, Pausch met and fell in love with his future wife. They were married in 2000 and lived in Shadyside until moving to Chesapeake.

"She's one of the only people I'd ever met who could stand up to me, and her wit and beauty compelled me to want to spend the rest of my life with her," Pausch said in an interview with the Tribune-Review shortly after learning his cancer would be fatal.

Given the chance to contribute to his own obituary, Pausch requested that this message be passed on to readers:

"In lieu of flowers," he said. "Use the money to increase your life insurance if you have kids."

In addition to his wife and children, Pausch is survived by his mother, Virginia Pausch, of Columbia, Md., and a sister, Tamara Mason of Lynchburg, Va. The family plans a private burial in Virginia. Carnegie Mellon is planning a memorial, as is The First Unitarian Church of Pittsburgh in Shadyside.

Please continue to focus loving thoughts and prayers in memory of Randy and for his wife, Jai, and their three young children...Dylan, Logan , and Chloe.

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Funeral Arrangements:
Dr. Randy Pausch's family plans a private funeral in Virginia, and Carnegie Mellon University officials said that they would schedule a memorial service at a date yet to be announced.
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Randy Pausch Memorial:
Last September, Carnegie Mellon announced a plan to honor Pausch's memory as the tireless advocate and enabler of collaboration between artistic and technical faculty members, that he was. They will construct a Randy Pausch Memorial Footbridge, which will connect the Gates Center for Computer Science with an adjacent arts building.

"Based on your talk, we're thinking of putting a brick wall on either end," joked President Cohon To Randy Pausch, last September as he announced the future of the planned memorial. He went on to say:

"Randy, there will be generations of students and faculty who will not know you, but they will cross that bridge and see your name and they'll ask those of us who did know you. And we will tell them."

+++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++ Randy Pausch Funeral/Memorial Service Video:
Dr. Randy Pausch Video Obituary
For the last news posted on Randy's own blog: Update on Randy Pausch: in his own words
July 25th, 2008
Randy died this morning of complications from pancreatic cancer. The CMU news story is here
July 24th, 2008:
The cancer is progressingA biopsy last week revealed that the cancer has progresed further than we had thought from recent PETscans. Since last week, Randy has also taken a step down and is much sicker than he had been. He's now enrolled in hospice. He's no longer able to post here so I'm a friend posting on his behalf because we know that many folks are watching this space for updates.
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Donations in memory of Randy Pausch:
The family requests that donations on his behalf be directed to the Pancreatic Cancer Action Network, 2141 Rosecrans Ave., Suite 7000, El Segundo, CA 90245, or to Carnegie Mellon's Randy Pausch Memorial Fund, which the university will use primarily to support continued work on the Alice project.

For more information on Randy's life and legacy, read In Memoriam: Randy Pausch, Innovative Computer Scientist at Carnegie Mellon, Launched Education Initiatives, Gained Worldwide Acclaim for Last Lecture.
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Previous links and posts:
Randy Pausch's Home Page
The story of Randy's diagnosis of pancreatic cancer
RandyPauschInformation
Update on Randy Pausch: in his own words
Randy's famous "Last Lecture."The Last Lecture:Randy's Book, just released!
Randy Pausch's Last Lecture - UPDATE ETC Global News
Journeys Lecture: Really Achieving Your Childhood Dreams
YouTube - The last lecture of Randy Pausch 1
ABC News: Dying Professor's Lecture of a Lifetime
RandyPauschInformation
The Last Lecture:Randy's Book, just released!
The Last Lecture: Transcript Link
June 2008:Randy Pausch: Update
Read or Print off a copy of his transcript of The Last Lecture:Transcript of Randy Pausch's "The Last Lecture" as delivered at Carnegie Mellon University on Sept. 18, 2007

July 25, 2008 Randy Pausch Has Died
July 29, 2008 The Last Lecture: A Celebration of Life (ABC Tuesday Night)
Latest Update: July 31, 2008 The Gift of an Enduring Legacy
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UPDATE ON JAI PAUSCH AND FAMILY: 09-20-2009

Jai Pausch, wife of Randy, and his 3 children have all been doing as well as they can after such a devastating loss. The family visited Disney World last February and when Dylan Pausch, 7, smiled as he wrapped his arms around a giant stuffed animal, it brought tears to his mom Jai's eyes. "That was something," she says, "Randy loved to do."

Now, 10 months after his death, Jai, 43, is making her way, even as she copes with enormous grief. "The knot in my chest has subsided," she says. "The pain is there, but life is going on for us."

Still fresh in her memory is the excruciating moment on July 25, 2008, when she broke the devastating news to the children—Dylan, then 6, Logan, 3, and Chloe, just a baby. "I said, 'Daddy didn't want to die; he loved you very much,'" Jai recalls. "It was awful." Their reactions were heart-wrenching. "Dylan said, 'Well, I'm the next to die in the family,'" Jai recalls. "I had to reassure him, 'You're not gonna die.'"

At first she made a daily habit of watching Randy's lecture about his childhood dreams and what he'd learned about life. "I needed to see him, watch him move, hear his voice," says Jai, who was earning her master's in comparative literature when she met Randy, a guest lecturer, at the University of North Carolina in 1998. "But it was like tearing the scab off every time. I had to stop doing it."

These days she foucuses on her children and fixing up their Virginia home, where they moved shortly before Randy's death to be closer to her family. Her greatest joy is watching, playing, and being with her children.

"They've been so resilient," says Jai of Dylan, a budding scientist; Logan, now 4, a Batman enthusiast; and the proudly toilet-trained Chloe, 3. Recently, with Jai's help, they planted a garden. "Jai's doing what Randy knew she'd do: raise them right," says Randy's coauthor, Jeff Zaslow. "She's one of the strongest women I know."

And one of the busiest. Despite her hectic schedule, she has recently taken up tennis—"I have to be engaged, so I can't think about making dinner or the anniversary of Randy's death"—and has started making new friends. Some years from now, when the kids are ready, she'll show them the lecture. "It's Randy in a bottle," she says. "They'll get to see their father at his finest. That's a wonderful gift."

Ands she ends by saying: "I think of what we could have had, and wish it would have been."

Update 2012 on Jai Pausch:

MAY 24 2012
Dream New Dreams, Jai Pausch, Randy Pausch, Last Lecture 
A remarkably frank, deeply moving and thematically rich memoir about death, dying and the grieving process, by the wife of the late Randy Pausch, author of THE LAST LECTURE.
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H‘I asked Jai what she has learned since my diagnosis,’ Randy Pausch wrote about his wife in The Last Lecture. ‘Turns out, she could write a book titled Forget the Last Lecture; Here’s the Real Story.’

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In Dream New Dreams, Jai Pausch shares her own story for the first time: her emotional journey from wife and mother to full-time caregiver, shuttling between her three young children and Randy’s bedside as he sought treatment far from home; and then to widow and single parent, fighting to preserve a sense of stability for her family, while coping with her own grief and the challenges of running a household without a partner.

UPDATE 2015

Jai Pausch: The Memory Project
https://memoriesproject.com/tag/jai-pausch/

"One of the most poignant and enlightening moments of the memoir for me comes near the very end of Randy’s journey with cancer. Jai does not sugarcoat the impact that cancer had on their relationship as husband and wife, and how she often struggled to maintain the household, raise three young children essentially alone, and try to be a loving caregiver to Randy. In the last month of his life, they make one last trip together for an experimental cancer treatment. Jai admits that they were not getting along. In front of a social worker at the hospital, Randy said something about his wife that hurt her deeply."

JAI:
“He said he felt I was unempathetic: doing a great job of all the things anyone could do, and a terrible job on the things only I could do"
Jai recounts what their wise psychologist suggested when Jai told her the crushing words Randy had said: “He wants you to tell him you’re going to miss him when he’s dead.”

"That is blunt advice to be sure, but it was a breakthrough moment for Jai as a caregiver. Jai was working so hard to maintain a stoic exterior, to not make Randy feel guilty about how much pain she was going to feel when he died that she was coming off as cold and uncaring to him. So on the doctor’s advice, she went to Randy and cried and expressed how much she was going to miss him. Jai says Randy was comforted."



Update 2016:
Dylan Pausch:
https://www.today.com/parents/how-i-m-keeping-my-dad-s-memory-alive-father-t98766




Jul 23, 2008

Brillante Weblog Premio: Hoax Award?


After receiving the (seemingly prestigious :) 'Brillante Weblog Premio 2008' award by two different bloggers, I decided to track it back to creation and source. Like Paula, I discovered that the 'award' could not be traced back immediately, to anyone. And I discovered it is being spread in two separate forms, one of the logo icons is dated 2008, another continues under a 2005 logo. That is always a bad sign of a either misuse or an online game being perpetrated. Since, the Internet is prime for trickery and deceit and since nothing that is placed online can ever be removed (only altered) it becomes pretty obvious that much we view and do online has to be seen as either games or hoaxes.

The propagation of Internet myths and urban legends abound and not all are revealed without a great deal of checking. I decided to do my own research and search backwards for the source of this one. I can only find the original award that was then, apparently distorted.

The current source seems to be connected....as of 2008....to The Brillante Awards for Excellence, a national society of Hispanic MBAs. Thousands of America's Hispanics leaders will be honored at the NSHMBA 2008 Annual Conference and Career Expo at the Georgia World Congress Center in Atlanta Georgia. This is the most prestigious honor granted by the organization, and is given to bright, radiant, and shining leaders whose work and contributions reflect NSHMBA’s mission “to foster Hispanic leadership through graduate management education and professional development in order to improve society. Obviously, none of us wants to mistakenly distract from this wonderful organization or its awards.

Previous connections links to other awards using the word "Brillante" meaning of course...brillant, bright, sparkling...like a diamond, for example. So, previous links connect to previous awards based on brilliance. Brillance means of supreme brightness or quality, so of course it is something we all want to be recognized for ;)

I can only assume that during this process, someone created a weblog based on these nominations and that awarded mutated......or became its own urban legend, much like memes have. Most bloggers mistakenly assumed that a meme is 'all about me' and posts have mutated to simply become that.

The word meme first came into popular use with the publication of Dawkins' book The Selfish Gene in 1976. Dawkins based the word on a shortening of the Greek "mimeme" (something imitated), making it sound similar to "gene". Dawkins used the term to refer to any cultural entity that an observer might consider a replicator.

Internet Awards, like memes, appear to replicate, or be copied, often in a changed or distorted form. Many of the current 'awards' swarming the Internet, are simply games that someone has created a widget for and propagated as a way of seeing how vast their own blogs reach is...often linking the image or widget back to their own blogs so as to boost their own ratings.

As bloggers, we use 'awards' for the same reason. By selecting a random number of bloggers (in this case 7) to 'nominate', we create link backs to our own blogs....which boost our own ratings. Each link back, links once again or 7 x 7 or whatever, again. The more we are mentioned in a link back, the greater our 'influence' and 'importance' for search engines and weblog counters

So, as in the case of 'buyer beware' awards nominees and nominators beware as well. In the case of the 'Brillante Weblog Premio Award'...whether using the 2005 logo or the 2008 logo...and both are currently in use (a major tip off)...use in fun or don't use it at all. It appears to have begun in Europe, was propagated or spread through the Spanish and Italian communities and then into Scandinavia and then over to the Americas.

So, if we are, indeed, linking back and boosting some trickster's ratings every time we post about this subject, then we (meaning myself, as well) have become part of that game and their ratings

And like all good memes, hoaxes, scams and warnings: Please pass this on as a warning!

Jul 21, 2008

Creating Personalized Wedding Gifts


My creative project this weekend was the design and sewing of another personalized wedding pillow. Combining my love of creating an individualized project on the computer/printer and my love of quilting, sewing, and yes, even of giving away...a photo transfered project with a 'morsbag 'became the perfect 'green' gift from our family.

Using the bride and groom's 'Save the Date' postcard and their wedding invitation, as well as their own personal drawings on the envelope, I simply scanned all of the above into my computer, made the necessary color corrections and printed them off onto my own Freezer Paper Photo Transfer fabric.

Using this computer printed and personalized fabric to make a patchwork pillow top, I also designed a 'tied back' similar to the last Wedding Gift Pillow. The next part of the gift was an individually designed morsbag to use as the re-useable and definitely green 'gift bag.'

A 'gift in a gift' for a young man that I have known and cared about his entire life, and his beautiful bride. And best of all, it is extremely lightweight, personally created, and ready for travel to a brand new life in England where 'morsbags' originated and are recognized and perhaps even, coveted!

Love and Best Wishes fill up all of the leftover spaces and overflow from the sides! I wish them a happy new life together and much joy!

Jul 18, 2008

Charity Quilting, Quilting Blogs and Googlegangers


This is the Michele, with one 'l' that I see on a daily basis. The one who just quietly quilts and sews as a community quilter in Salem, Oregon (and Douglas, Alaska) and loves doing so! That I am now featured as a quilter for "Charity Quilting Month" is so delightful! I am in such wonderful, wonderful company. But there are many more Micheles with one 'l', and it is such fun to get to know some of them online!

Check out the 'another' Michele with one 'l' and her fabulous website Quilting Gallery. Besides being able to connect with 1,000 other quilting bloggers from around the world, you can get wonderful hints and tips from a multitude of sources. It's a truly amazing resource for all quilters as well as quilting bloggers!

I am delighted to have been contacted by this other delightful googleganger (someone who shares your name in one form or another and comes up on search engine 'hits' as a result) and have my community quilting featured as a"Charity Quilter" this week. Quilting Gallery's
Michele Bilyeu, Charity Quilter

Please check out all of Quilting Gallery's posts on Charity Quilters, there are some truly amazing women who have given so much to others from such caring hearts! I feel so blessed to even be listed amongst them. Thanks Mischka!

Now, why don't I have a cute nickname like that? Especially, with my own track record and my unbelievable Identity Crisises and Other Misadventures !

And 'this' Michele? She's frantically creating another Freezer Paper Photo Transfer /Wedding Gift Pillow with a morsbags to put it in, for a wedding held tonight! And, I am continually uploading Quilt Show photos in my online album, so check them out!

Photo above from: Making Kuspuks in Alaska
Check out the community sewing that I enjoyed so very much this year, helping 16 second graders make kuspuks in Douglas, Alaska...where I grew up! Kuspuks Make Front Page News

Jul 17, 2008

"Gyotaku" Fish Quilts


Gyotaku (Japanese 魚拓, from gyo "fish" + taku "rubbing") is a traditional form of Japanese fish printing, dating from the mid 1800s, a form of nature printing used by fishermen to record their catches. In order to make a gyotaku print, one places the subject (e.g. fish, crab, scallop shell) on a flat surface and paints one side with sumi ink.

Modern gyotaku artists often substitute watercolor, india ink or other painting material for the traditional sumi. Once the pigment is applied to the subject, a piece of rice paper is then carefully applied on top of the fish and then pulled off with a mirror image of the fish having been created on the substrate.

The indirect approach requires that the subject is firmly secured into a cradle or mounted onto a firm backing, then a very fine piece of fabric, either silk or polyester, is attached to the subject with a glue that will release (e.g. spray adhesive or a water-based glue that can later be washed out).

The artist carefully applies ink to the fabric using a tool called a tampo. The tampo is constructed from a piece of fine silk bound around a soft, rounded ball of cotton. Very thin layers of ink are successively laid onto the fabric, and the textures of the subject transfer through the fabric, creating textures in the print.

Quilters, using art quilting techniques, are incorporating these or variations of these techniques, into their beautiful art quilts. Usually using real fish, as Robin Ryan did for the Sisters Quilt Show, then saving the salmon or other fish used, in their freezers for up to six months for re-use in print and then, in quilt making.

There were a variety of interesting quilts made this way at the 2008 Sisters Quilt Show and Robin Ryan, as the featured artist, had an amazing display of not only her Fish Quilts but others that were exceptional in many ways. Her machine quilting techniques were amazingly complex and added unusual effects to the quilts, as well. I am not sure if all of these fish quilts are Robin's but the first four shown, definitely are, as we had the opportunity to discuss them and her techniques at her display.

My other links on the Sisters Quilt Show:
Butterfly Quilts
"Gyotaku" Fish Quilts
Jane Sassaman
Sisters Oregon Quilt Show
Sisters Outdoor Quilt Show 2008 Photos

Jul 15, 2008

Jane Sassaman


Amongst the glorious riot of colors, textures, designs and patterns at the Sisters Outdoor Quilt Show, none surpassed the total joy of the quilt designs of Jane Sassaman. Her beautiful folk art quilts are filled with an energy which celebrates life and an explosion of beauty that bounces across the panoramic display of fabric.

Hung against buildings and walls, and shaded by the leafy fronds of nearby trees, her expression of nature's bounty in butterflies and flowers, were overshadowed only by the spiritual vibrancy of her crosses and the warmth of her hearts.

Initially inspired by Nancy Crow's quilt on the cover of American Craft magazine, she went from jewelry and textile design to quilts and quilting. Now, she finds immense inspiration in the works of Gwen Marston and Freddy Moran's Collaborative Quilting.

As Jane has said: "I'm shy but my quilts are quite loud."

With a little research, I am delighted to be able to offer her links to a few of her selected patterns for several of these quilts. Her beautiful website also showcases her designs on fabric.

Folk Art Hearts:
Download the free pattern for this quilt here

Glowing Crosses:
Download the free pattern for this quilt here

Zen Garden (Butterfly)
Download the free pattern for this quilt here

Jane's Website:
http://www.janesassaman.com/

My other posts on this quilt show:
Butterfly Quilts
"Gyotaku" Fish Quilts
Jane Sassaman
Sisters Oregon Quilt Show
Sisters Outdoor Quilt Show 2008 Photos

Jul 14, 2008

Sisters Oregon Quilt Show


The Sisters Outdoor Quilt Show was cooler, larger, more varied, and perhaps even more diversified this year. All in all, it was a visual and sensory delight. With the 1,200 quilts spread out over the small western town with a population of 1,460, it took between 400 and 500 volunteers to hang the quilts quilts (on every available surface in town!)


Locals tell me that one of the best parts is the hanging of the quilts. Volunteers work tirelessly to hang lines filled with clothespins from every surface in the town. Quilts hang from rooftops, eaves, awnings, shade trees, inside galleries, quilt shops, and outside on drive-ins, auto stores, feed stores, shoe stores and realty offices. It is a delightful sight for bright eyes and sore feet to observe.

Three of us met the 1pm roll call at the Sisters Library, Cher, Doni, and I, (Michele) and we set out to see all of the quilts we might have missed seeing earlier in the day, individually.



I found Dot's 'Citrus' and her 'Motorcycle Mama'...and I even have a newspaper that mentions the motorycle quilt...but I had depleted my third set of batteries before I got its formal photo! Sorry, Dot...hope this close-up, the newspaper article which mentioned it, and seeing it on the side of the Auto Parts store all count ;)

Other favorites will be showcased later, but these photos fill you with the true spirit and energy of one is considered the largest outdoor quilt show in the nation, and some believe in the world....

click here for:
Sisters Outdoors Quilt Show Photos
Butterfly Quilts
"Gyotaku" Fish Quilts
Jane Sassaman

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